What is in service to SELF?
How do I know when I am acting in service to SELF?
What is the difference between selfish, selfless and in service to SELF?
It seems to me that anything I do from a motivation of FEAR (which is everything) is selfish and/or selfless – looking out for myself and doing my best to get my needy greedy agenda met however I can, regardless of anyone else. Whether I am open about this (selfish) or secretive (selfless) the goal is the same – take care of my own needs.
The very nature of the concept of in service to SELF is that there is no fear, attachment, judgement, or agenda. It is simply naturally and effortlessly inspired activity in the flow of the universe.
Every activity I can do can either be done in fear or to resolve fear OR without fear in a natural flow with no agenda or outcome needed.
Take the BodyTalk Access Routine for example. I can do this routine because I am afraid of disease and suffering and pain, or I can do this routine simply because it helps me to be more present to myself in awareness without any conditions.
Imagine what each of these activities looks like if they are done in fear or if they are happening in the flow.
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Physical practices like exercise
Awareness sessions like BodyTalk
Nurturing with food
What do you do in service to SELF?
I recently became aware of the school shooting in Florida. The online backlash that I see includes blaming the school, parents, gun legislation, mental health system, etc.
Honestly folks! Is all this blaming working?? In my humble opinion, I don’t think so.
So what to do, practically speaking?? Well, if this incident and others like it trigger an overreaction in myself, and I am aware of it, then I can engage the CLI process.
Here’s my CLI:
Story: School shooting and noticing in the news how everyone is whining and raging about who to blame!
Things: school, guns, shooting, violence, gun laws, health system, security at the school.
School should be safe and secure places for students
School should not allow students to be violated.
Location: school, lower gut
How am I acting out violating toward the school 1st?
I am acting out violating by not even having this
school or its community in my awareness at all.
I am completely unaware of other far away communities
I am also attached to safety in my own backyard and by doing so I push out violence to everyone else so I don’t have it in my home.
Any buts?? No! I can totally see how this was my attachment to safety and my behaviour first.
Release and let go of the attachments. Thank you!
So what does freedom beyond fear really mean? Well it is CLI like this that allow me to solve my own fear and the attachments that go with it. The most important transformation is from fear to gratitude. With this work I can be free of labels, fear of loss, dependency, time, the need for certainty, free of the part of me that requires an answer, and ultimately free of the fear of myself and others in life itself!
In order to liberate myself, solving the fear that drives every thought and action is the key. When I liberate myself I automatically liberate all others.
In the end I cannot ever leave the fear trap unless I know I am in it! Once you know you are in it, action is required of YOU not everyone else! CLI is such a wonderful way to fall in love with yourself, using your own intuition, a natural expanded whole-brain knowing, as a trusted partner in life. This allows me to cooperate with events instead of controlling, avoiding, and suffering.
My vocation in life is to solve the fear at the center. This is a combination of surrender to every opportunity in an imaginative and collaborative way on the path to unconditional gratitude.
Fear transformed becomes an inquiry and an open-ended question. The seed for health is the information and awareness in the conflict or illness.
With every fear-based belief release, I increase my capacity for love and gratitude with no bargaining or expectations.
Fear is no longer my prison!
“It’s an idea as old as the hills.” Gandhi
As you all know I do a lot of reading for the purpose of expanding myself. Recently I found myself reading about Gandhi and his idea of ‘satyagraha’. I realized as I was investigating this concept, that Conscious Living Investigation (CLI) is satyagraha! WOW!
When I think about our world today and how our political selves attempt to manage and cope with problems, I realized that from a place of fear and combat, solving problems is never possible. Fighting each other is actually not the answer! We will need to create a paradigm shift in the way we solve problems by removing the focus to the problem itself (the thing) not each other. If we can liberate ourselves into this new way of problem-solving we will expand and grow our capacity to transform.
This means we cannot operate unconsciously as the majority anymore! It means, in the words of Thoreau, “Anyone who discovers a truth becomes a majority of one; a qualitatively different force from the uncommitted majority’. You must be willing to commit your whole vote as it were to the truth, without fear or coercion, for a minority is powerless while it conforms to the majority. An act of the majority should not be able to bind a minority. The numbers of the majority should not count for more than the truth of the minority.
So now we have reached the idea of ‘satyagraha’. This swift and direct soul force is about deriving power from fierce autonomy and total compassion. (Hummm, sounds like CLI to me!) Coercion is not the answer but investigating the truth is! In this way we can focus our attention on the thing in the middle instead of each other as the opposition. In truth there is no opposition only a misunderstanding as we are fooled by our own fears. Fear cannot cohabitate with true love and compassion and gratitude. This is the way of knowing that all real resolution comes from the courage and integrity of self investigation, not the fear-based blaming and shaming of anyone. This is a great departure from the arena most of us know now; one of confrontation, “let make a deal”, seduction, and mind games. Satyagraha transforms conflict at the source – the heart of each participant! This is about changing without the need to defeat or be defeated! Gandhi suggests that by discarding defenses and denials we can allow for insight and truth to be a stronger power than any arms.
Ok so what do we do now? Nice idea but how the hell do we accomplish this? Where’s the how??
After all my years studying I believe I have shown myself how. A daily practice of presence moment to moment aimed at reducing and perhaps some day eliminating the fear based life I once led. Of course as you know CLI and the BodyTalk System are two ‘hows’ based in the same philosophy – heal the split mind to heal everything! I lead myself as a majority of one, transforming my perception of myself. If this example helps you do the same or invites you to come along – perfect!
“It matters not how small the beginning may seem”, Thoreau.
“Show the Hell UP!!”, Kelley Burry
Parenting yourself is a way to parent children without blame. This is a way to take the blame out of parenting, whether you are blaming your kids, spouse or self.
This class is for parents, teachers, guidance counsellors, principles, grand parents, law enforcement, or anyone in a role of leadership.
CLI is about learning to consciously parent yourself, as we learn this new perspective you realize thatvyou’re the only person you need to parent. If the world is a reflection of you, then your children are a reflection of you also. This type of conscious parenting is about leading by example.
We are not learning a new way to manage children, but how to apply the CLI philosophy to stop blaming and to start to see that every challenge is an opportunity for self realization.
Through this work will emerge not only a new parent or leader, but a new family.
To be In the Middle is to be choicelessly aware of all that is.
I first became aware of this saying through reading Pillars of Consciousness, a book written by the guru Osho, given to me by a friend some years ago. Buddha is responsible for this saying, “to be in the middle”. In the middle means not one or the other – neither! Choicelessly aware of all that is. When we are conscious in a choiceless way we can embrace everything. Can you imagine in life being in non-attachment state in all things? Sounds impossible right? On the other hand, how is it not the case naturally, if at my core I am Divine?
When we are born, the experience of being rejected by the mother and pushed into the world creates vast amounts of fear and aloneness. We would call this Separation Consciousness (separation from Divine). This fear causes us to act out on the need to be safe by judging everything, forming attachments and opinions to cope with the feeling of being alone. We call these false belief systems and they reside in the mind. These are our recipes and rules for life.
When you have let go of all opinions and attachments to either of the extremes the extremes disappear! You have arrived in the middle. But wait, if there are no extremes then there will not be a middle either.
Extremes are not really opposites but complimentary sides of a concept, all part of a process of the whole. All complimentaries contribute to the whole and whole is the ‘goal’ (which is the journey)! To understand this is to liberate and transform yourself from all sides and the middle!
Unity of all complimentaries and the middle is all-inclusive.
So the question remains - HOW??
Staying in the process, continuing along the journey, requires an expansive daily practices that allows you to integrate this new perspective and drop the opinionated mind. In my experience, on my journey, The BodyTalk System and Conscious Living Investigation are my daily practice on my path - I hope you will join me!
“I have nothing to offer”, said my friend.
It is everyone else’s burden to make up
for what I won’t contribute – Myself!
Erich Fromm once wrote, “no great radical idea can survive unless it is embodied in individuals whose lives are the message.” The transformed self is the medium. The transformed life is the message.
Why make my awareness practice second nature?
Everything is me – I am my own teacher!
Commitment to daily awareness practices has become a way of life for me. The stress in my life a few years ago was so great and nothing I ‘tried’ seemed to help. The drugs, physical fixes, vacations, emotional therapies, diets, and coping activities (-aholic therapy) did not work to ease my pain. I was looking for a fast, one-time forever fix, and of course, nothing worked. What I didn’t understand is that I wasn’t broken. What I needed to do was find the middle inside myself. The place beyond the intellectual and emotional mind of unconditional, the place of non-judgmental love and gratitude for myself, just as I am.
We are all capable of living the Middle Way.
This is your invitation to join me in your own process to live your Middle Way.
There is no quick fix! In fact, there isn’t even an destination. This process requires you to keep showing up every moment of every day because it’s a journey, it is only a journey with no beginning and no end.
The process is the key – focus on the journey instead of the end goal; the means are the end and the journey is the destination! Learning rather than storing information; caring rather than keeping; participating rather than postponing; opportunities rather than conflicts. There is the courage inside you to commit all your energy to the practice of self awareness.
This is a moment to moment attention you do out of love and understanding for yourself, in the pursuit of wholeness. It is your only purpose in this dimension on this planet! Whether you accomplish this as a plumber, teacher, or health practitioner, it doesn’t matter. The only process you have in this life is the journey resolving yourself. Activities are done with the awareness that in this very moment is an opportunity to realize your Divine wholeness with all the Universe. Therefore, wholeness is also a process.
There is only one thing in the way – my fear-based mind! My mind tells me that this process is impossible and futile, definitely not worth the effort!
“The Great Smoking Mirror” is a Cheyenne saying. The great smoke screen of my personal illusions can be pierced when I am willing to look at myself and see that my obsession with my personal self is a myth. The part of the fearful self that insists on being only one is shattered by the realization that every life-form holds an equal part to the solution of my wholeness.
My fear-based mind fractures myself, and to keep me safe it hides pieces of me in everything all over the world both close and far from me. The criticism of myself and others holds no weight in this true light of the self-reflection. The smoke screen can no longer operate! All I need to do is break the cycle of the false illusion! For most of us this requires a steady committed effort, kind of like hammering a nail. (Think of all the misadventures that can arise when you hammer in a nail).
There is a Mayan saying “I am another one of myself”. Every life form reflects every other life form and all originate from the same Source. Unity eliminates all types of elitist ideas and Separation Consciousness. The view that all other humans are unique expressions of myself would eliminate the need for war and conflicts.
So I have chosen to fall in love and gratitude for every exiled part of me and welcome it home without the need to judge it or fix it. This is the philosophical process that I choose to walk and live – not just talk about as an idealistic, intellectual goal.
The fourth dimension not another place; is a process immanent within us.
Perhaps you, my dear reflections, will choose to join me?
Manifesting the Middle Way - A new support program by Show the Hell Up to anchor, strengthen and facilitate your practice of Conscious Living Self Awareness.
Join CLI developer and instructor Kelley Burry for weekly live online guided practice.
You can expect to:
Special offer for January 2018: $43.50 + NS HST = $50 per month (starting January 8th)
If you cannot attend each week in person, or would like to revisit a session, you will have special access to these recordings.
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Many of the great gurus and philosophers agree that all humans and everything in our awareness come from Universal Consciousness. We have many names for this concept including Absolute, Source, Pure Consciousness, Tao, Allah, God, and Creator. It contains everything that exists in our world. It is all there is.
The idea of Universal Consciousness, or whatever word you choose to use, is so big that our human brains cannot understand the concept as a whole. To cope with this, we split the concept (and every other whole concept) into two extremes, time and space, causing us to experience reality as a duality.
This is called the ‘split mind’ and healing it is the human journey. Every person experiences this; it is perfectly normal. This is the exact right place for you to be.
For example, consider the concept of temperature. In order to understand temperature we have to divide it into hot and cold and compare it. Our understanding is always relative, without the comparison, temperature has no meaning.
Humans also need to attach value to one extreme or the other - every person has a preference for hot or cold. The values we attach to one extreme or another become belief systems that help us cope and manage in the world. It is extremely difficult for humans to see something and not judge it as good or bad/right or wrong and we ultimately live our lives according to these beliefs.
Living as a whole concept would look very different than our distorted experience of duality, which is our current reality. Our dualistic interpretations of life cause the conflicts we see and experience, including illness and pain in our bodies. This perspective may feel strange to you, it may even feel terrifying. Living consciously heals the split mind and decreases conflict as we deconstruct our fear-based beliefs. Nothing can be right 100% of the time nor can it be wrong 100% of the time. Healing the split mind is also a return to Absolute. By embracing life as a playful illusion we live a very different, lighter, sort of life.
We are all Universal Consciousness at the top of the triangle. However, the light and wisdom from Universal Consciousness cannot come through the mess of the mind, the mental and super mental levels, and an essential part of our humanness. Both the conscious and subconscious mind are clouded by False Belief Systems which then get projected through and into the energetic and physical levels of self, resulting in a wide variety of health issues. As you begin to clear away the mess of the mind you are also changing your perception and awareness of who we are and how we got to be here. You are moving from accepting that this model may be true to knowing it.
Guest Blogger and MindScape Instructor Kristin Pierce.
Kristin comes to NS November 16-18 to teach MindScape and Ignite Your Intuition!
If you follow me (Inner Compass Academy) on Facebook or Instagram, you’ll see this phrase quite often. But, what does it really mean?
Well, everyone has the ability to use their intuition, but most of us need some help to reconnect with this gift. When you get a gut feeling, that is your intuition speaking to you. The problem is that most people don’t listen to it or know how to access it at will.
Intuition is defined as a direct perception of truth or fact independent of any reasoning process; the ability of having such direct perception or quick insight.
Intuition is that gut feeling you have when something doesn’t ‘feel right.’ It’s that tiny voice in your head that is telling you, “Don’t do it.” It is that inner knowing when you’re filled with so much passion about something that you know you have to go for it. Whether you listen to it or not, that is your intuition.
So “Igniting Your Intuition” means sparking and unleashing this powerful intuitive ability that you already have within you, so that you can access your intuition WHEN you want to and use it HOW you want to. It is a reawakening of this, often dormant, yet, incredibly amazing strength that you already possess so that you can use it to harness the magnificent potential of your mind.
So, now you’re wondering… “How is ‘Igniting my Intuition’ going to help me?”
Well, your intuition ultimately is an innate knowing. Your intuition has access to all the information in the universe. Sounds crazy, right? Have you ever heard of consciousness? Well, it’s the key to everything, literally. Accessing your intuition allows you to essentially get in tune with your subconscious mind, which is a direct link to Universal Consciousness. Am I losing you? Ok, I’ll dive into this at the course.
Igniting your Intuition is going to SPARK your enthusiasm, your passion, your desires, your goals, your dreams, your aspirations, and fill you with inspiration. It will spark a thirst for knowledge and understanding, for self-growth and self-knowing. It will Awaken your Awareness and give you a fresh perspective on the workings of this world we are spinning on. It will teach you how to pay attention and to follow your heart. And if you do the work, and use these MindScape techniques, you will literally change your world.
As Kelley evolves through her own CLI practice, her understanding of the principals we work with also evolves and deepens. Here she shares her new awareness about the Stages of the Death of a Belief found on page 9 of the Show the Hell Up Guide, available free here.
We go through these stages every time we do a CLI or experience a conflict. We can move through them in fear, or take a different approach. In fear we become isolated and defensive, as in the first stage. If you find yourself in a place of denial try bringing awareness to this stage so you can fall into the next one.
The stage of anger is necessary to come to action, to resolve to take action and no longer be in denial. Its an opportunity to stop perpetuating the denial and move into resolution.
Step three is about bargaining. You can use your anger to bargain and make a deal. That’s what the ego wants to do. The question is ‘how is that working out?’ Is your anger taking you into bargaining as a last ditch effort avoid doing the work? Once you see it you can move through it.
The next step is depression. There is sadness in the fear and conflict and that your strategies are not working. Depression is a necessary and power stage. It’s the first inkling that the egoic strategies of managing and manipulating are not working and that we need to let them go. Depression is meant to help us let go of the need to keep developing strategies and manipulating. There is a death that is happening and it’s a huge move that can be scary. The key is to really experience it. At the bottom of the well there is a surrender, like hitting the bottom of the pool. But as your knees bend you can push out. The more deeply you can surrender to the process and understand the purpose, the more you experience the resolution of fear and conflict. You can rise with more power than you ever imagined. It’s a complete surrender to the moment. Surrender is not a bad thing, its so valuable. This moment. This awareness. Its all up from here. There is a willingness and openness that happens. You become so grateful and understand the purpose of the conflict. Surrender brings great peace, awareness, willingness, complete resolution. We go through these steps every single time we go through a conflict or do a CLI.
We can get caught in one of these stage as a coping mechanism. If you can notice where you get caught you have an opportunity to move past it. This is a progression to learn more about yourself, your ego, and where you take yourself out of the process. There is a positive, worthwhile nature in all of these steps to help facilitate a deeper result. Each step does not have to last long but can be experienced in a moment and moved through. They don’t need to be fear driven.
What are you noticing? Do you have any questions? Send them our way!
Current cancer statistics report that almost 1 in 2 Canadians will be diagnosed with cancer at some point in their lives. Here's our take on why that number is so high and what we can do about it:
Fear drives disease.
Would there be any disease if we were always living in the NOW?
I would suggest not.
If you didn't have a self esteem issue would you have a disease? Would there be any fear?
There is no fear in the NOW and fear is the number one problem we have.
In my estimation the only way to get into the NOW is to transform the fear. The nature of fear is to pull us out of the NOW. The more fear someone has the more diseased they are. The amount of fear you hold and where in the body is directly proportional to your disease.
Cancer is born of fear. Cancer is a result of withheld resentment, anger, guilt. All disease is a coding error caused by fear. Suppressed fear.
How does disease get to proliferate in the body?
Fear breeds unworthiness and pulls us out of the now, into the past and future, which keeps breeding more unworthiness and self esteem issues. Fear completely compromises and incapacitates the immune system. The paralysis of the immune system leads to even more fear. Its a nasty loop. We've handcuffed our own immune systems with fear. The fear-driven ego constantly pulls us into the past and future, feeding an obsession with time.
If I want to look at resolving disease, in particular cancer, we need to find a path back to the NOW where there isn't any fear.
How can I be disease free? Cancer free? Fear free? Addressing this on a only a physical level misses the root of the problem, which is always fear. By addressing the fear we are addressing the physical. There is a HOW.
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